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Welcome to 2021

Hello gals, guys, and theys. Welcome to 2021. Congratulations on slogging through 2020 or however you got through it. There's not judgment on how you made it to this side. I think I can speak for a lot of us when I say that last year was a kick in the teeth to say the least.

I'll be honest, I didn't do too much in terms of capitalist productivity; most of the time, I'm fine with that because I don't need to burn myself out to prove a point and neither does anyone else. Besides I did a lot of internal, mental/emotional, and spiritual work so I could come back into this year feeling as best I can and serving my community with a full tank of gas.

One of the things I saw and continue to see is this notion that you're a lazy asshole if you weren't “productive” and didn't write three novels, bottle your own wine, and raise insta worthy children. I mean, if you were able to do that more props to you but I think that most of us were just kind of wandering around kind of like Sandra Bullock in Birdbox (I'm still annoyed that I watched that movie to the end) hoping we didn't fall off a cliff or maybe walk into speeding freeway traffic.

I want to say that if “all” you did was keep your children alive or made it to the next day relatively intact that's pretty awesome too. The idea that we had to be doing and going and performing in the midst of something so dark, heavy, and unprecedented is absolutely bananas to me. Millions of people got sick and hundreds of thousands died. We had the rug yanked out from under our feet. 2020 and the whole Covid-19 pandemic has been and continues to be incredibly traumatic.

Our government on almost every single level failed us here in the United States. And they are continuing to fail us. I have the utmost respect for parents and caregivers during this time, managing not only their own complex and heavy feelings and experiences but those of children and teens which are that much more layered.

I think what I wanted to say is that you're doing just fine. Take it one step at a time and know that you do have this. And don't let some random person on the internet make you feel bad because maybe you gave your kid mac and cheese from a box three days in a row during this mess. Maybe you didn't hit all your goals from last year but that doesn't mean it's all been a wash. It's a new year and soon, a new day. You can always try again. Or better yet, you can say to hell with everyone else's expectations and REST.

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